Talking About What Matters

Photo by Jordan Dinwiddie

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Each person’s life is lived as a series of conversations. ~Deborah Tannen

 

 We crave more human conversation.

This is an ancient primal need–to sit together and talk.

Not more tweets, or face book post or Google + hangouts. We need more face to face conversations. Where we look into each others eyes and hold  each others hands.

Where we hold each other in a safe place.

We need simple, truthful, honest, open conversations.

Where we both speak. Where we both laugh. Where we both listen. Where we feel connected and heard and ultimately valued.

We need those conversations.

When was the  last time you had a conversation where you were really heard, where you  felt your opinions were valued?

Hopefully its been sooner rather than later.

In this conversation did you have a safe place to  discuss your hopes, your dreams, your tender longings, your prayers, your joys–all that you wish was different?

No?

Was your last conversation filled with  gossip? Or was it about stuff or things?

I am talking about a  rich conversation about your deepest desires. When was the last time you had THAT-a  conversation that fed your soul.

 Well you deserve that. You are worthy of those conversations. You need that connection.

Conversations take time.

They are more than 140 characters…. they require time and commitment. They require courage  and faith.Conversations are about the long term. They are about painting a vision and learning… they are about love.

Transformation  happens when people start talking with one another about things they care about.

We need that connection. We need each other.

 

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